Monday, June 29, 2009
How to Make a Great First Impression on a Date
Comment from me ... Actually Ive got success with this tips when Im trying to approach myself to my girlfriend (Now my wife) ... Try out to yourself and you'll find it ... :)
Step 1
Dress attractively but comfortably. Don't wear clothes that make you feel stiff or self-conscious.
Step 2
Be aware of your posture - it speaks volumes about you. You want to appear alert and confident by sitting up straight.
Step 3
Compliment your date. Don't just say 'I like your shirt.' Be sincere and notice something that he or she took time with.
Step 4
Learn to flirt (see "eHow to Flirt') and try it out. Don't overdo it, though.
Step 5
Realize that you don't have to tell people how great you are. It's better to show them instead.
Step 6
Be interested and interesting. Listen actively to what your date says. Ask questions and don't interrupt.
Step 7
Enjoy yourself, no matter what. If you're easygoing and fun to be around and if you can roll with whatever comes your way, you can't help but make a great impression.
Step 8
Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception. Good manners will get you far.
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Saturday, June 20, 2009
How to Work With a Scorpio
Respect your Scorpio colleagues' privacy. Scorpios are private people who work hard to separate their private lives from their work lives. They will open up when and if they decide to. But, don't be surprised if your Scorpio co-workers know the secrets of everyone else in the office. They love mysteries and are excellent sleuths.
Step 2
Call on Scorpios in a crisis situation. When you have an impending disaster at work, Scorpios will have no problem taking charge. They are well-known for their ability to remain calm and get things done, even while everyone else is in a panic.
Step 3
Reassure your Scorpio co-workers of your loyalty to them as team members. Scorpios demand absolute allegiance. If you are working with them on a project, show them that you are devoted to following through on your responsibilities. If you break your promises, they will become resentful.
Step 4
Remember to give Scorpios plenty of space. They are quite self-sufficient and don't need any hand-holding. If they have any questions, they will ask you.
Step 5
Understand that Scorpios have a very strong need to control things. This can create tension in the workplace. Be patient and talk through projects and responsibilities with your Scorpio co-workers. Discuss things that may be out of their control and how to address those issues.
How to Communicate in a Relationship
Step 1
Look into your partner's eye when you are speaking with them. This is important because it makes your partner feel like you are really listening and connecting with them.
Step 2
Listen attentively. Show you are listening and understanding what they are saying. Couples that take the time to truly listen to each other find that they have fewer communication issues.
Step 3
Show your appreciation. Tell your partner how lucky you feel to have them in your life. Tell them you appreciate what they do to make your relationship work and that you love them.
Step 4
Ask your partner what you want and need from them. A successful relationship is a two-way street. If you both ask for what you need in the relationship you are bound to feel connected. No one is a mind reader!
Step 5
Learn to compromise with each other. If one of you wants to go to the cinema and the other one wants to go to a baseball game, then do both on two different nights. Keep talking, and speaking openly and honestly.
Step 6
Be honest. The more you are honest about your feelings with your partner, the more you will get out of your relationship.
Step 7
Show affection when you are communicating. Couples keep a spark when they hold hands or are loving when they talk.
Look into your partner's eye when you are speaking with them. This is important because it makes your partner feel like you are really listening and connecting with them.
Step 2
Listen attentively. Show you are listening and understanding what they are saying. Couples that take the time to truly listen to each other find that they have fewer communication issues.
Step 3
Show your appreciation. Tell your partner how lucky you feel to have them in your life. Tell them you appreciate what they do to make your relationship work and that you love them.
Step 4
Ask your partner what you want and need from them. A successful relationship is a two-way street. If you both ask for what you need in the relationship you are bound to feel connected. No one is a mind reader!
Step 5
Learn to compromise with each other. If one of you wants to go to the cinema and the other one wants to go to a baseball game, then do both on two different nights. Keep talking, and speaking openly and honestly.
Step 6
Be honest. The more you are honest about your feelings with your partner, the more you will get out of your relationship.
Step 7
Show affection when you are communicating. Couples keep a spark when they hold hands or are loving when they talk.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Approach Women
This has to be a hot topic amongst guys that are not really experiencing the kind of success that they want to with women. And I am not talking about just any kind of woman here. I mean, the turn your head and make your mouth drop kind of gorgeous girls that you really want to get with. How do you approach her in a way that you stand out and also don't look like a complete tool?
Well, the truth is that most guys probably do come off looking like complete tools. They do all of the wrong things, they show their nervousness, and they immediately back away from the hottest women. And what does this result in for you?
Only more lonely Friday and Saturday nights, that's all. So, how do you approach beautiful women so that you don't make the common mistakes men make?
You have to become detached from the outcome. What I mean is that it can be a do or die kind of thing. Most guys have it in their head that they just have to get this girl and if they don't the whole world comes caving in. And that puts a whole lot of pressure on YOU and on the women that you are approaching. She can sense it.
What happens when there is too much pressure?
Things explode and not in a good way my friend. Not at all. So, relax, be confident and know that it is not the end of the world, no matter what happens and no matter how hot she is.
Want to know more?
Want to learn more?
Go to: http://www.geturgirl.com NOW!
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Well, the truth is that most guys probably do come off looking like complete tools. They do all of the wrong things, they show their nervousness, and they immediately back away from the hottest women. And what does this result in for you?
Only more lonely Friday and Saturday nights, that's all. So, how do you approach beautiful women so that you don't make the common mistakes men make?
You have to become detached from the outcome. What I mean is that it can be a do or die kind of thing. Most guys have it in their head that they just have to get this girl and if they don't the whole world comes caving in. And that puts a whole lot of pressure on YOU and on the women that you are approaching. She can sense it.
What happens when there is too much pressure?
Things explode and not in a good way my friend. Not at all. So, relax, be confident and know that it is not the end of the world, no matter what happens and no matter how hot she is.
Want to know more?
Want to learn more?
Go to: http://www.geturgirl.com NOW!
You can publish this article as long as you keep it intact and the URL active.
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Monday, June 15, 2009
How to Recognize a Soulmate
To find a soulmate is not easy as 1,2,3 ... It needs times to build it ... Maybe this can help ... :)
Step 1
Accept your partner. Acceptance is a big factor in a relationship and your soulmate will accept you as you are and in good or bad times. They will not be flustered if you have a mood one day and they will not leave over silly arguments. Your soulmate will stick by you.
Step 2
Love unconditionally. Soulmates will love you when you look horrible when you have the flu, and they will celebrate with you when you succeed at one of your goals. They are always there for you.
Step 3
Build together. Your soulmate will want to build things with you and create a future full of happy times and joy. They will work with you as a team not as a competitor. They will walk on the same path with you and ride the same wave.
Step 4
Attract from the heart and soul. When you find your soulmate, you will feel that the main attraction comes from your heart and soul. It connects with their heart and soul. Many people believe that looks are the main focus in attraction, when in fact it is the joining of our souls that pulls us together.
Step 5
Provide support in good and bad. Soulmates know how to support you in all life's experiences. They will hold your hand when you are sad, they will jump up and down with you when you are excited, and they will hold you close when you want them too. Soulmates have a natural way of knowing how to embrace your spirit and heart.
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Step 1
Accept your partner. Acceptance is a big factor in a relationship and your soulmate will accept you as you are and in good or bad times. They will not be flustered if you have a mood one day and they will not leave over silly arguments. Your soulmate will stick by you.
Step 2
Love unconditionally. Soulmates will love you when you look horrible when you have the flu, and they will celebrate with you when you succeed at one of your goals. They are always there for you.
Step 3
Build together. Your soulmate will want to build things with you and create a future full of happy times and joy. They will work with you as a team not as a competitor. They will walk on the same path with you and ride the same wave.
Step 4
Attract from the heart and soul. When you find your soulmate, you will feel that the main attraction comes from your heart and soul. It connects with their heart and soul. Many people believe that looks are the main focus in attraction, when in fact it is the joining of our souls that pulls us together.
Step 5
Provide support in good and bad. Soulmates know how to support you in all life's experiences. They will hold your hand when you are sad, they will jump up and down with you when you are excited, and they will hold you close when you want them too. Soulmates have a natural way of knowing how to embrace your spirit and heart.
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Friday, June 12, 2009
Do You Know What Love Is?
Ah, summer time- the time of year when a young man's fancy turns to chocolate - er, I mean, love. Actually a young man's fancy may turn to both love and chocolate since a typical gift to one's sweetheart is a box of chocolates. Now, the chocolate part is pretty easy: you get what you pay for. So when buying a heart shaped box of chocolates, spend as much as your budget will allow. That way, you'll be sure to have only the best when your sweetie says she's overjoyed with the gift, but really, she has to watch her weight and so you end up eating most of the chocolates yourself.
Love on the other hand is a bit more difficult. These days love is considered an emotion, a good feeling - which most often finds its expression in bed (or the back seat of a car or wherever). And the truth is that sex has been largely divorced from love now-a-days anyway and so what's left when we consider love is just a feeling. Thus folks fall in and out of "love" - in and out of bed - rather frequently in our day and age. The result is hurt that is often carried for a lifetime.
But the fact is that love is much more than a feeling. Certainly emotion is part of the mix - but that's just one of the ingredients. The emotion we call love is often present by itself; however, it requires the other components of love in order to be complete.
For instance, true love includes an element of patience. No, that's not really forceful enough. It's more accurate to say that true love will suffer a long time because of, or on behalf of, the one you love. For example, if you really love someone you'll be ready to put up with the worst thing about them no matter what it is. At the same time you'll be willing to endure slights, gossip, rejection or whatever else because of your commitment to the one you love. And you'll be willing to suffer through either situation indefinitely.
Another ingredient of true love is kindness. This element is active as opposed to passive (putting up with something). Kindness is a friendly, "useful" part of love which looks for ways to make life a little better for the object of your affection.
You may think that after putting up with and putting out for someone you would have the right to cut back a bit and expect a little of the same treatment in return. However, a third item in true love is a lack of envy. If you really love someone you won't begrudge the good things that come their way even if you're not getting "your fair share."
All of this makes love sound like a lot of work. Where's the romance (and pleasure), in that? Well, we're talking about love here, remember? There is romance and pleasure aplenty for those who are truly in love. Think of the old tales of romantic love. There was always a component of sacrifice - of tragedy. And as we shall see over the next few articles, they weren't too far off the mark.
D. Eric WilliamsP.O. Box 1037Lewiston, ID. 83501(208) 717-0964http://www.d-eric-williams.commail@d-eric-williams.com
Love on the other hand is a bit more difficult. These days love is considered an emotion, a good feeling - which most often finds its expression in bed (or the back seat of a car or wherever). And the truth is that sex has been largely divorced from love now-a-days anyway and so what's left when we consider love is just a feeling. Thus folks fall in and out of "love" - in and out of bed - rather frequently in our day and age. The result is hurt that is often carried for a lifetime.
But the fact is that love is much more than a feeling. Certainly emotion is part of the mix - but that's just one of the ingredients. The emotion we call love is often present by itself; however, it requires the other components of love in order to be complete.
For instance, true love includes an element of patience. No, that's not really forceful enough. It's more accurate to say that true love will suffer a long time because of, or on behalf of, the one you love. For example, if you really love someone you'll be ready to put up with the worst thing about them no matter what it is. At the same time you'll be willing to endure slights, gossip, rejection or whatever else because of your commitment to the one you love. And you'll be willing to suffer through either situation indefinitely.
Another ingredient of true love is kindness. This element is active as opposed to passive (putting up with something). Kindness is a friendly, "useful" part of love which looks for ways to make life a little better for the object of your affection.
You may think that after putting up with and putting out for someone you would have the right to cut back a bit and expect a little of the same treatment in return. However, a third item in true love is a lack of envy. If you really love someone you won't begrudge the good things that come their way even if you're not getting "your fair share."
All of this makes love sound like a lot of work. Where's the romance (and pleasure), in that? Well, we're talking about love here, remember? There is romance and pleasure aplenty for those who are truly in love. Think of the old tales of romantic love. There was always a component of sacrifice - of tragedy. And as we shall see over the next few articles, they weren't too far off the mark.
D. Eric WilliamsP.O. Box 1037Lewiston, ID. 83501(208) 717-0964http://www.d-eric-williams.commail@d-eric-williams.com
Monday, June 8, 2009
How to Write Love Poetry
Try To Be Romantic Today ... :)
Step 1
Master the art of rhyme. Save the blank verse for Bohemian coffeehouses and Yale poetry raves; a love poem has to rhyme, and the more often, the better. Try to stick with easy-to-rhyme words like “moon” (June, swoon, buffoon) and “heart” (start, tart, Wal-Mart). Avoid difficult-to-rhyme words like “interregnum,” “ameliorate,” and “venereal.”
Step 2
Learn your similes. What do love poets do more than ordinary schmos (besides rhyme, that is?) That’s right: they compare things to other things. Shakespeare was a master at comparing things to other things (“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate”) and you can be, too, provided you choose the right things to compare with each other. For example, it may not be a good idea to compare your beloved’s lips to potato chips, even if it does rhyme quite nicely.
Step 3
Choose the right meter. You don’t need to hear an exegesis on iambic pentameter vs. trochaic hexameter; that’s kindergarten stuff. Just remember that choosing the wrong meter will bulldoze all your carefully worked-out rhymes and similes, curl your beloved’s potato-chip lips in disgust, and cause her to dump you for the sweetly versifying pizza-delivery boy who just delivered her triple pepperoni. (For example, which of the following do you think is more romantic? “She walks in beauty, like the night/Of cloudless climes and starry skies…” or “There once was a girl from Peru…”)
Step 4
Indulge yourself. Did you ever read “Paradise Lost” in high school? That’s the kind of length you’re aiming for here, only longer. A short poem (“Roses are red/Violets are blue/Gosh, you’re cute!/Like a llama from Peru”) will only persuade the love of your life that you don’t have the attention span to truly attend to her needs. She needs to be convinced that you spent weeks cloistered on a barren mountaintop, using your blood for ink, howling at the moon to summon divine inspiration.
Step 5
Consider your presentation. Your love poem may be endless, rhyming, pleasingly metric and chock-a-block with similes, but all that counts for nothing if you toss it off on the pickup line at the local Fotomat. Plan something a bit more creative, like inscribing your masterpiece on rare Arabian parchment and burying it in a homemade souffle. (Note for beginners: Remember to do this *after* you’ve removed the souffle from the oven.)
By Bob Strauss, eHow Member
Step 1
Master the art of rhyme. Save the blank verse for Bohemian coffeehouses and Yale poetry raves; a love poem has to rhyme, and the more often, the better. Try to stick with easy-to-rhyme words like “moon” (June, swoon, buffoon) and “heart” (start, tart, Wal-Mart). Avoid difficult-to-rhyme words like “interregnum,” “ameliorate,” and “venereal.”
Step 2
Learn your similes. What do love poets do more than ordinary schmos (besides rhyme, that is?) That’s right: they compare things to other things. Shakespeare was a master at comparing things to other things (“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate”) and you can be, too, provided you choose the right things to compare with each other. For example, it may not be a good idea to compare your beloved’s lips to potato chips, even if it does rhyme quite nicely.
Step 3
Choose the right meter. You don’t need to hear an exegesis on iambic pentameter vs. trochaic hexameter; that’s kindergarten stuff. Just remember that choosing the wrong meter will bulldoze all your carefully worked-out rhymes and similes, curl your beloved’s potato-chip lips in disgust, and cause her to dump you for the sweetly versifying pizza-delivery boy who just delivered her triple pepperoni. (For example, which of the following do you think is more romantic? “She walks in beauty, like the night/Of cloudless climes and starry skies…” or “There once was a girl from Peru…”)
Step 4
Indulge yourself. Did you ever read “Paradise Lost” in high school? That’s the kind of length you’re aiming for here, only longer. A short poem (“Roses are red/Violets are blue/Gosh, you’re cute!/Like a llama from Peru”) will only persuade the love of your life that you don’t have the attention span to truly attend to her needs. She needs to be convinced that you spent weeks cloistered on a barren mountaintop, using your blood for ink, howling at the moon to summon divine inspiration.
Step 5
Consider your presentation. Your love poem may be endless, rhyming, pleasingly metric and chock-a-block with similes, but all that counts for nothing if you toss it off on the pickup line at the local Fotomat. Plan something a bit more creative, like inscribing your masterpiece on rare Arabian parchment and burying it in a homemade souffle. (Note for beginners: Remember to do this *after* you’ve removed the souffle from the oven.)
By Bob Strauss, eHow Member
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Its Good To Be True ...
Selamat Sejahtera means Good Day To All Of You ...
Today Im trying to give you some advice from my opinion and my experience ... My Wife is my first love ... Dont you believe it ... From a small child till Im 24 years old nobody wants to become my lovers (Im a quite shy guy) ... Maybe Im not a rich man like Donald Trump maybe ... Or not handsome like Brangelina ... But I thank to God I found my wife when Im ready to get married ... :)
Now my marriage has been reached 10 years old ... My oldest son now 9 years old ... Second one is 6 years old cute girl ... And the third one is 2 years old ... She is very cute ... Hmm ... Thats all for now ... :)
What Im trying to say is no what God give us ... A hard life ... A big problem like no girlfriend you must trust that there is something BIG that God wanna give us after that ... Believe that ... Like me now Im happy with my family ... All I want is everyday is a happy day with them ... :)
p/s :- My English grammar quite 'BROKEN' ... Sorry ... Like I said SHARING IS CARING ... Bye ... :)
Today Im trying to give you some advice from my opinion and my experience ... My Wife is my first love ... Dont you believe it ... From a small child till Im 24 years old nobody wants to become my lovers (Im a quite shy guy) ... Maybe Im not a rich man like Donald Trump maybe ... Or not handsome like Brangelina ... But I thank to God I found my wife when Im ready to get married ... :)
Now my marriage has been reached 10 years old ... My oldest son now 9 years old ... Second one is 6 years old cute girl ... And the third one is 2 years old ... She is very cute ... Hmm ... Thats all for now ... :)
What Im trying to say is no what God give us ... A hard life ... A big problem like no girlfriend you must trust that there is something BIG that God wanna give us after that ... Believe that ... Like me now Im happy with my family ... All I want is everyday is a happy day with them ... :)
p/s :- My English grammar quite 'BROKEN' ... Sorry ... Like I said SHARING IS CARING ... Bye ... :)
Friday, June 5, 2009
You may be in love if …
One of the most common human experiences that two or more (depending on how ambitious you are) people can share is love. But, it’s not always easy to tell if you are in “like”, “lust” or full blown, forever loving. With that in mind, I’ve created this list of signs that you may be crazy in love!
1. If you’ve ever stared deeply into the eyes of your significant other for more than 10 seconds without cracking up hysterically … you may be in love.
2. If every person in your life tells you that she/he’s no good and you’re mailman, pharmacist and local news station agrees, yet you think they are “just jealous” … you may be in love.
3. Guys: if you’ve taken the pictures of the other women in you’re life off the walls, like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition posters, Playmate of the month calendar, Monster Truck Rally 2005 … you may be in love.
4. Ladies: men can produce excessive amounts of eye watering, nose burning noxious odor from almost any food or drink, and then aren’t above sharing it with others, especially at night. Knowing all this, and you STILL want to sleep in the same bed with him … you may be in love.
5. If your significant other asks you how they look in their new retro polyester lime green outfit and you say they look hot … you may be in love…. or you have a really strong self preservation instinct.
6. Guys: if you’ve ever given up washing and waxing that new car you just bought to watch “Sleepless in Seattle” with you’re girlfriend/wife for the 20th time … you may be in love.
7. If you always remember every anniversary and birthday of your partner, and you’re not female … you may be in love.
8. If you think the underwear and socks you get for your birthday and Christmas every year is a pleasant surprise … you may be in love.
9. If you thought the Sears Tool Set and rolling cabinet you got for your birthday was great idea, and you’re not male ... you may be in love.
10. If you are taken to Burger King for a romantic dinner, and that doesn’t bother you … you may be in love.
11. If you notice your local florist starts arriving at work in a limo since you became a customer ... you may be in love.
12. If hearing "Honey, wheres my clean underwear?" brings tears of joy to your eyes ... you may be in loveBut the easiest way to tell if you are in love is this: If there is no one on this planet that you would rather spend everyday of your life with than the one you are with … then you ARE in love!
by: Jan Michaels
1. If you’ve ever stared deeply into the eyes of your significant other for more than 10 seconds without cracking up hysterically … you may be in love.
2. If every person in your life tells you that she/he’s no good and you’re mailman, pharmacist and local news station agrees, yet you think they are “just jealous” … you may be in love.
3. Guys: if you’ve taken the pictures of the other women in you’re life off the walls, like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition posters, Playmate of the month calendar, Monster Truck Rally 2005 … you may be in love.
4. Ladies: men can produce excessive amounts of eye watering, nose burning noxious odor from almost any food or drink, and then aren’t above sharing it with others, especially at night. Knowing all this, and you STILL want to sleep in the same bed with him … you may be in love.
5. If your significant other asks you how they look in their new retro polyester lime green outfit and you say they look hot … you may be in love…. or you have a really strong self preservation instinct.
6. Guys: if you’ve ever given up washing and waxing that new car you just bought to watch “Sleepless in Seattle” with you’re girlfriend/wife for the 20th time … you may be in love.
7. If you always remember every anniversary and birthday of your partner, and you’re not female … you may be in love.
8. If you think the underwear and socks you get for your birthday and Christmas every year is a pleasant surprise … you may be in love.
9. If you thought the Sears Tool Set and rolling cabinet you got for your birthday was great idea, and you’re not male ... you may be in love.
10. If you are taken to Burger King for a romantic dinner, and that doesn’t bother you … you may be in love.
11. If you notice your local florist starts arriving at work in a limo since you became a customer ... you may be in love.
12. If hearing "Honey, wheres my clean underwear?" brings tears of joy to your eyes ... you may be in loveBut the easiest way to tell if you are in love is this: If there is no one on this planet that you would rather spend everyday of your life with than the one you are with … then you ARE in love!
by: Jan Michaels
Monday, June 1, 2009
The Two Sides of Love
Anyone who truly wants to experience love has to be ready to delve into ALL of love, the two sides of love. The one side you dream and fantasize about that is readily described in romantic novels, as well as the side that rarely gets mentioned, the side that encompasses unconditional love.
So what is love? Like anything in life, love is composed of it's opposites, to be what it is. Love, a feeling, an emotion, is probably the most written about topic of all times. Love, to many, is the feeling of God. The feeling of the Divine. The feeling that says "all is perfect, all is beautiful, all is well."
If everything in life must have it's opposite to make it complete, to make it known, then love is also vulnerability, insecurity, and jealousy, for without these aspects of love, the feelings of being "perfect, beautiful, Divine and well", could not be felt. Identical to the thought that if we never had night, we could not experience day, if we never knew insecurity we'd never experience the security that love can offer. They must go hand in hand.
In my practice, I often share with clients that if they truly want to experience the deepest of love than they must be willing to also experience the deepest pain, loss, vulnerability and hurt that this quest for love may offer. Many of these emotions, the "other" side of love, can surface if we delve into the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the other part of love that most of us give lip service to, but never really have the intention of practicing. To love someone unconditionally means exactly what it says, without conditions. I love you even if "you don't do as I ask, don't make the money I'd like you to make, don't have the body I want you to have, or don't communicate with me the way I want you to communicate". In other words, I will love you at the deepest level regardless of what you do or do not do.
When we start to love someone at this level, we can be assured that for a while, it will scare the heck out of us. We release our ego through the practice of unconditional love and move to a place of pure acceptance. We toss out the fantasy of having a partner that falls into a certain role, and accept the human side of their existence. This is where we often experience the dark side of our own emotions, fears and insecurities as we allow our partner the space to become their own person without limits or expectations. Again, the fantasy that we have created since childhood gets blasted away, and in it's place we become strong enough, and loving enough, to allow them to live the life they desire.
Within this union, real love can exist. Within this type of relationship, we experience the deepest love for ourselves as we allow our partner more space to grow than they ever could have imagined. When someone feels this type of love coming from you, the will often respond with the same depth in return. The kind of depth that will awaken a new sense of ecstasy within you that may just blow the doors off of anything you could have imagined.
The best way that I have seen this happen is when two people come together and make a conscious decision to discuss this path of unconditional love as a goal that they would like to share. They can then regularly talk honestly about how they are each doing, in a non confrontational and supportive way. While it can also occur without consciousness, the chances of it lasting at this level becomes more of a challenge.
So, now the question lies with you. What do you want when it comes to love? Are you ready to experience the two sides of love in order to reach the zenith of Divine Union or unconditional love? Or, do you want to continue to hold onto the "fantasy love, fantasy partner" that our society continues to promote as realistic to obtain even though we know it is not?
I'd love for you to make a conscious decision today, and then be willing to live with your notion of love. On the one hand is the superficial love filled with shallowness and disappointment from a lover that could never rise to your expectations. Or on the other, is a lover that feels free as a bird, and offers the same freedom in return as you both fly into uncharted territories. A love relationship that offers a connection unknown to most, carried by a current of vulnerability that will stretch you beyond your own wildest dreams. A love that guarantees a soul connection so deep when you make love, one that you could never have created in all of your dreams, even if all you had was time to dream.
Whatever you desire, so it shall be.
David Essel, Master Life, Business and Spiritual Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Adjunct Professor and Radio/TV Host empowers people to take charge of their lives, positively affecting the lives of many through his motivational lectures, television segments, and his belief that health is not just from the neck down. How can you create an exceptional life by honoring your mind, body and soul? Visit his website at:http://www.davidessel.com
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So what is love? Like anything in life, love is composed of it's opposites, to be what it is. Love, a feeling, an emotion, is probably the most written about topic of all times. Love, to many, is the feeling of God. The feeling of the Divine. The feeling that says "all is perfect, all is beautiful, all is well."
If everything in life must have it's opposite to make it complete, to make it known, then love is also vulnerability, insecurity, and jealousy, for without these aspects of love, the feelings of being "perfect, beautiful, Divine and well", could not be felt. Identical to the thought that if we never had night, we could not experience day, if we never knew insecurity we'd never experience the security that love can offer. They must go hand in hand.
In my practice, I often share with clients that if they truly want to experience the deepest of love than they must be willing to also experience the deepest pain, loss, vulnerability and hurt that this quest for love may offer. Many of these emotions, the "other" side of love, can surface if we delve into the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the other part of love that most of us give lip service to, but never really have the intention of practicing. To love someone unconditionally means exactly what it says, without conditions. I love you even if "you don't do as I ask, don't make the money I'd like you to make, don't have the body I want you to have, or don't communicate with me the way I want you to communicate". In other words, I will love you at the deepest level regardless of what you do or do not do.
When we start to love someone at this level, we can be assured that for a while, it will scare the heck out of us. We release our ego through the practice of unconditional love and move to a place of pure acceptance. We toss out the fantasy of having a partner that falls into a certain role, and accept the human side of their existence. This is where we often experience the dark side of our own emotions, fears and insecurities as we allow our partner the space to become their own person without limits or expectations. Again, the fantasy that we have created since childhood gets blasted away, and in it's place we become strong enough, and loving enough, to allow them to live the life they desire.
Within this union, real love can exist. Within this type of relationship, we experience the deepest love for ourselves as we allow our partner more space to grow than they ever could have imagined. When someone feels this type of love coming from you, the will often respond with the same depth in return. The kind of depth that will awaken a new sense of ecstasy within you that may just blow the doors off of anything you could have imagined.
The best way that I have seen this happen is when two people come together and make a conscious decision to discuss this path of unconditional love as a goal that they would like to share. They can then regularly talk honestly about how they are each doing, in a non confrontational and supportive way. While it can also occur without consciousness, the chances of it lasting at this level becomes more of a challenge.
So, now the question lies with you. What do you want when it comes to love? Are you ready to experience the two sides of love in order to reach the zenith of Divine Union or unconditional love? Or, do you want to continue to hold onto the "fantasy love, fantasy partner" that our society continues to promote as realistic to obtain even though we know it is not?
I'd love for you to make a conscious decision today, and then be willing to live with your notion of love. On the one hand is the superficial love filled with shallowness and disappointment from a lover that could never rise to your expectations. Or on the other, is a lover that feels free as a bird, and offers the same freedom in return as you both fly into uncharted territories. A love relationship that offers a connection unknown to most, carried by a current of vulnerability that will stretch you beyond your own wildest dreams. A love that guarantees a soul connection so deep when you make love, one that you could never have created in all of your dreams, even if all you had was time to dream.
Whatever you desire, so it shall be.
David Essel, Master Life, Business and Spiritual Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Adjunct Professor and Radio/TV Host empowers people to take charge of their lives, positively affecting the lives of many through his motivational lectures, television segments, and his belief that health is not just from the neck down. How can you create an exceptional life by honoring your mind, body and soul? Visit his website at:http://www.davidessel.com
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