Monday, June 29, 2009
How to Make a Great First Impression on a Date
Comment from me ... Actually Ive got success with this tips when Im trying to approach myself to my girlfriend (Now my wife) ... Try out to yourself and you'll find it ... :)
Step 1
Dress attractively but comfortably. Don't wear clothes that make you feel stiff or self-conscious.
Step 2
Be aware of your posture - it speaks volumes about you. You want to appear alert and confident by sitting up straight.
Step 3
Compliment your date. Don't just say 'I like your shirt.' Be sincere and notice something that he or she took time with.
Step 4
Learn to flirt (see "eHow to Flirt') and try it out. Don't overdo it, though.
Step 5
Realize that you don't have to tell people how great you are. It's better to show them instead.
Step 6
Be interested and interesting. Listen actively to what your date says. Ask questions and don't interrupt.
Step 7
Enjoy yourself, no matter what. If you're easygoing and fun to be around and if you can roll with whatever comes your way, you can't help but make a great impression.
Step 8
Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception. Good manners will get you far.
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Saturday, June 20, 2009
How to Work With a Scorpio
Respect your Scorpio colleagues' privacy. Scorpios are private people who work hard to separate their private lives from their work lives. They will open up when and if they decide to. But, don't be surprised if your Scorpio co-workers know the secrets of everyone else in the office. They love mysteries and are excellent sleuths.
Step 2
Call on Scorpios in a crisis situation. When you have an impending disaster at work, Scorpios will have no problem taking charge. They are well-known for their ability to remain calm and get things done, even while everyone else is in a panic.
Step 3
Reassure your Scorpio co-workers of your loyalty to them as team members. Scorpios demand absolute allegiance. If you are working with them on a project, show them that you are devoted to following through on your responsibilities. If you break your promises, they will become resentful.
Step 4
Remember to give Scorpios plenty of space. They are quite self-sufficient and don't need any hand-holding. If they have any questions, they will ask you.
Step 5
Understand that Scorpios have a very strong need to control things. This can create tension in the workplace. Be patient and talk through projects and responsibilities with your Scorpio co-workers. Discuss things that may be out of their control and how to address those issues.
How to Communicate in a Relationship
Step 1
Look into your partner's eye when you are speaking with them. This is important because it makes your partner feel like you are really listening and connecting with them.
Step 2
Listen attentively. Show you are listening and understanding what they are saying. Couples that take the time to truly listen to each other find that they have fewer communication issues.
Step 3
Show your appreciation. Tell your partner how lucky you feel to have them in your life. Tell them you appreciate what they do to make your relationship work and that you love them.
Step 4
Ask your partner what you want and need from them. A successful relationship is a two-way street. If you both ask for what you need in the relationship you are bound to feel connected. No one is a mind reader!
Step 5
Learn to compromise with each other. If one of you wants to go to the cinema and the other one wants to go to a baseball game, then do both on two different nights. Keep talking, and speaking openly and honestly.
Step 6
Be honest. The more you are honest about your feelings with your partner, the more you will get out of your relationship.
Step 7
Show affection when you are communicating. Couples keep a spark when they hold hands or are loving when they talk.
Look into your partner's eye when you are speaking with them. This is important because it makes your partner feel like you are really listening and connecting with them.
Step 2
Listen attentively. Show you are listening and understanding what they are saying. Couples that take the time to truly listen to each other find that they have fewer communication issues.
Step 3
Show your appreciation. Tell your partner how lucky you feel to have them in your life. Tell them you appreciate what they do to make your relationship work and that you love them.
Step 4
Ask your partner what you want and need from them. A successful relationship is a two-way street. If you both ask for what you need in the relationship you are bound to feel connected. No one is a mind reader!
Step 5
Learn to compromise with each other. If one of you wants to go to the cinema and the other one wants to go to a baseball game, then do both on two different nights. Keep talking, and speaking openly and honestly.
Step 6
Be honest. The more you are honest about your feelings with your partner, the more you will get out of your relationship.
Step 7
Show affection when you are communicating. Couples keep a spark when they hold hands or are loving when they talk.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Approach Women
This has to be a hot topic amongst guys that are not really experiencing the kind of success that they want to with women. And I am not talking about just any kind of woman here. I mean, the turn your head and make your mouth drop kind of gorgeous girls that you really want to get with. How do you approach her in a way that you stand out and also don't look like a complete tool?
Well, the truth is that most guys probably do come off looking like complete tools. They do all of the wrong things, they show their nervousness, and they immediately back away from the hottest women. And what does this result in for you?
Only more lonely Friday and Saturday nights, that's all. So, how do you approach beautiful women so that you don't make the common mistakes men make?
You have to become detached from the outcome. What I mean is that it can be a do or die kind of thing. Most guys have it in their head that they just have to get this girl and if they don't the whole world comes caving in. And that puts a whole lot of pressure on YOU and on the women that you are approaching. She can sense it.
What happens when there is too much pressure?
Things explode and not in a good way my friend. Not at all. So, relax, be confident and know that it is not the end of the world, no matter what happens and no matter how hot she is.
Want to know more?
Want to learn more?
Go to: http://www.geturgirl.com NOW!
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Well, the truth is that most guys probably do come off looking like complete tools. They do all of the wrong things, they show their nervousness, and they immediately back away from the hottest women. And what does this result in for you?
Only more lonely Friday and Saturday nights, that's all. So, how do you approach beautiful women so that you don't make the common mistakes men make?
You have to become detached from the outcome. What I mean is that it can be a do or die kind of thing. Most guys have it in their head that they just have to get this girl and if they don't the whole world comes caving in. And that puts a whole lot of pressure on YOU and on the women that you are approaching. She can sense it.
What happens when there is too much pressure?
Things explode and not in a good way my friend. Not at all. So, relax, be confident and know that it is not the end of the world, no matter what happens and no matter how hot she is.
Want to know more?
Want to learn more?
Go to: http://www.geturgirl.com NOW!
You can publish this article as long as you keep it intact and the URL active.
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Monday, June 15, 2009
How to Recognize a Soulmate
To find a soulmate is not easy as 1,2,3 ... It needs times to build it ... Maybe this can help ... :)
Step 1
Accept your partner. Acceptance is a big factor in a relationship and your soulmate will accept you as you are and in good or bad times. They will not be flustered if you have a mood one day and they will not leave over silly arguments. Your soulmate will stick by you.
Step 2
Love unconditionally. Soulmates will love you when you look horrible when you have the flu, and they will celebrate with you when you succeed at one of your goals. They are always there for you.
Step 3
Build together. Your soulmate will want to build things with you and create a future full of happy times and joy. They will work with you as a team not as a competitor. They will walk on the same path with you and ride the same wave.
Step 4
Attract from the heart and soul. When you find your soulmate, you will feel that the main attraction comes from your heart and soul. It connects with their heart and soul. Many people believe that looks are the main focus in attraction, when in fact it is the joining of our souls that pulls us together.
Step 5
Provide support in good and bad. Soulmates know how to support you in all life's experiences. They will hold your hand when you are sad, they will jump up and down with you when you are excited, and they will hold you close when you want them too. Soulmates have a natural way of knowing how to embrace your spirit and heart.
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Step 1
Accept your partner. Acceptance is a big factor in a relationship and your soulmate will accept you as you are and in good or bad times. They will not be flustered if you have a mood one day and they will not leave over silly arguments. Your soulmate will stick by you.
Step 2
Love unconditionally. Soulmates will love you when you look horrible when you have the flu, and they will celebrate with you when you succeed at one of your goals. They are always there for you.
Step 3
Build together. Your soulmate will want to build things with you and create a future full of happy times and joy. They will work with you as a team not as a competitor. They will walk on the same path with you and ride the same wave.
Step 4
Attract from the heart and soul. When you find your soulmate, you will feel that the main attraction comes from your heart and soul. It connects with their heart and soul. Many people believe that looks are the main focus in attraction, when in fact it is the joining of our souls that pulls us together.
Step 5
Provide support in good and bad. Soulmates know how to support you in all life's experiences. They will hold your hand when you are sad, they will jump up and down with you when you are excited, and they will hold you close when you want them too. Soulmates have a natural way of knowing how to embrace your spirit and heart.
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Friday, June 12, 2009
Do You Know What Love Is?
Ah, summer time- the time of year when a young man's fancy turns to chocolate - er, I mean, love. Actually a young man's fancy may turn to both love and chocolate since a typical gift to one's sweetheart is a box of chocolates. Now, the chocolate part is pretty easy: you get what you pay for. So when buying a heart shaped box of chocolates, spend as much as your budget will allow. That way, you'll be sure to have only the best when your sweetie says she's overjoyed with the gift, but really, she has to watch her weight and so you end up eating most of the chocolates yourself.
Love on the other hand is a bit more difficult. These days love is considered an emotion, a good feeling - which most often finds its expression in bed (or the back seat of a car or wherever). And the truth is that sex has been largely divorced from love now-a-days anyway and so what's left when we consider love is just a feeling. Thus folks fall in and out of "love" - in and out of bed - rather frequently in our day and age. The result is hurt that is often carried for a lifetime.
But the fact is that love is much more than a feeling. Certainly emotion is part of the mix - but that's just one of the ingredients. The emotion we call love is often present by itself; however, it requires the other components of love in order to be complete.
For instance, true love includes an element of patience. No, that's not really forceful enough. It's more accurate to say that true love will suffer a long time because of, or on behalf of, the one you love. For example, if you really love someone you'll be ready to put up with the worst thing about them no matter what it is. At the same time you'll be willing to endure slights, gossip, rejection or whatever else because of your commitment to the one you love. And you'll be willing to suffer through either situation indefinitely.
Another ingredient of true love is kindness. This element is active as opposed to passive (putting up with something). Kindness is a friendly, "useful" part of love which looks for ways to make life a little better for the object of your affection.
You may think that after putting up with and putting out for someone you would have the right to cut back a bit and expect a little of the same treatment in return. However, a third item in true love is a lack of envy. If you really love someone you won't begrudge the good things that come their way even if you're not getting "your fair share."
All of this makes love sound like a lot of work. Where's the romance (and pleasure), in that? Well, we're talking about love here, remember? There is romance and pleasure aplenty for those who are truly in love. Think of the old tales of romantic love. There was always a component of sacrifice - of tragedy. And as we shall see over the next few articles, they weren't too far off the mark.
D. Eric WilliamsP.O. Box 1037Lewiston, ID. 83501(208) 717-0964http://www.d-eric-williams.commail@d-eric-williams.com
Love on the other hand is a bit more difficult. These days love is considered an emotion, a good feeling - which most often finds its expression in bed (or the back seat of a car or wherever). And the truth is that sex has been largely divorced from love now-a-days anyway and so what's left when we consider love is just a feeling. Thus folks fall in and out of "love" - in and out of bed - rather frequently in our day and age. The result is hurt that is often carried for a lifetime.
But the fact is that love is much more than a feeling. Certainly emotion is part of the mix - but that's just one of the ingredients. The emotion we call love is often present by itself; however, it requires the other components of love in order to be complete.
For instance, true love includes an element of patience. No, that's not really forceful enough. It's more accurate to say that true love will suffer a long time because of, or on behalf of, the one you love. For example, if you really love someone you'll be ready to put up with the worst thing about them no matter what it is. At the same time you'll be willing to endure slights, gossip, rejection or whatever else because of your commitment to the one you love. And you'll be willing to suffer through either situation indefinitely.
Another ingredient of true love is kindness. This element is active as opposed to passive (putting up with something). Kindness is a friendly, "useful" part of love which looks for ways to make life a little better for the object of your affection.
You may think that after putting up with and putting out for someone you would have the right to cut back a bit and expect a little of the same treatment in return. However, a third item in true love is a lack of envy. If you really love someone you won't begrudge the good things that come their way even if you're not getting "your fair share."
All of this makes love sound like a lot of work. Where's the romance (and pleasure), in that? Well, we're talking about love here, remember? There is romance and pleasure aplenty for those who are truly in love. Think of the old tales of romantic love. There was always a component of sacrifice - of tragedy. And as we shall see over the next few articles, they weren't too far off the mark.
D. Eric WilliamsP.O. Box 1037Lewiston, ID. 83501(208) 717-0964http://www.d-eric-williams.commail@d-eric-williams.com
Monday, June 8, 2009
How to Write Love Poetry
Try To Be Romantic Today ... :)
Step 1
Master the art of rhyme. Save the blank verse for Bohemian coffeehouses and Yale poetry raves; a love poem has to rhyme, and the more often, the better. Try to stick with easy-to-rhyme words like “moon” (June, swoon, buffoon) and “heart” (start, tart, Wal-Mart). Avoid difficult-to-rhyme words like “interregnum,” “ameliorate,” and “venereal.”
Step 2
Learn your similes. What do love poets do more than ordinary schmos (besides rhyme, that is?) That’s right: they compare things to other things. Shakespeare was a master at comparing things to other things (“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate”) and you can be, too, provided you choose the right things to compare with each other. For example, it may not be a good idea to compare your beloved’s lips to potato chips, even if it does rhyme quite nicely.
Step 3
Choose the right meter. You don’t need to hear an exegesis on iambic pentameter vs. trochaic hexameter; that’s kindergarten stuff. Just remember that choosing the wrong meter will bulldoze all your carefully worked-out rhymes and similes, curl your beloved’s potato-chip lips in disgust, and cause her to dump you for the sweetly versifying pizza-delivery boy who just delivered her triple pepperoni. (For example, which of the following do you think is more romantic? “She walks in beauty, like the night/Of cloudless climes and starry skies…” or “There once was a girl from Peru…”)
Step 4
Indulge yourself. Did you ever read “Paradise Lost” in high school? That’s the kind of length you’re aiming for here, only longer. A short poem (“Roses are red/Violets are blue/Gosh, you’re cute!/Like a llama from Peru”) will only persuade the love of your life that you don’t have the attention span to truly attend to her needs. She needs to be convinced that you spent weeks cloistered on a barren mountaintop, using your blood for ink, howling at the moon to summon divine inspiration.
Step 5
Consider your presentation. Your love poem may be endless, rhyming, pleasingly metric and chock-a-block with similes, but all that counts for nothing if you toss it off on the pickup line at the local Fotomat. Plan something a bit more creative, like inscribing your masterpiece on rare Arabian parchment and burying it in a homemade souffle. (Note for beginners: Remember to do this *after* you’ve removed the souffle from the oven.)
By Bob Strauss, eHow Member
Step 1
Master the art of rhyme. Save the blank verse for Bohemian coffeehouses and Yale poetry raves; a love poem has to rhyme, and the more often, the better. Try to stick with easy-to-rhyme words like “moon” (June, swoon, buffoon) and “heart” (start, tart, Wal-Mart). Avoid difficult-to-rhyme words like “interregnum,” “ameliorate,” and “venereal.”
Step 2
Learn your similes. What do love poets do more than ordinary schmos (besides rhyme, that is?) That’s right: they compare things to other things. Shakespeare was a master at comparing things to other things (“Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate”) and you can be, too, provided you choose the right things to compare with each other. For example, it may not be a good idea to compare your beloved’s lips to potato chips, even if it does rhyme quite nicely.
Step 3
Choose the right meter. You don’t need to hear an exegesis on iambic pentameter vs. trochaic hexameter; that’s kindergarten stuff. Just remember that choosing the wrong meter will bulldoze all your carefully worked-out rhymes and similes, curl your beloved’s potato-chip lips in disgust, and cause her to dump you for the sweetly versifying pizza-delivery boy who just delivered her triple pepperoni. (For example, which of the following do you think is more romantic? “She walks in beauty, like the night/Of cloudless climes and starry skies…” or “There once was a girl from Peru…”)
Step 4
Indulge yourself. Did you ever read “Paradise Lost” in high school? That’s the kind of length you’re aiming for here, only longer. A short poem (“Roses are red/Violets are blue/Gosh, you’re cute!/Like a llama from Peru”) will only persuade the love of your life that you don’t have the attention span to truly attend to her needs. She needs to be convinced that you spent weeks cloistered on a barren mountaintop, using your blood for ink, howling at the moon to summon divine inspiration.
Step 5
Consider your presentation. Your love poem may be endless, rhyming, pleasingly metric and chock-a-block with similes, but all that counts for nothing if you toss it off on the pickup line at the local Fotomat. Plan something a bit more creative, like inscribing your masterpiece on rare Arabian parchment and burying it in a homemade souffle. (Note for beginners: Remember to do this *after* you’ve removed the souffle from the oven.)
By Bob Strauss, eHow Member
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Its Good To Be True ...
Selamat Sejahtera means Good Day To All Of You ...
Today Im trying to give you some advice from my opinion and my experience ... My Wife is my first love ... Dont you believe it ... From a small child till Im 24 years old nobody wants to become my lovers (Im a quite shy guy) ... Maybe Im not a rich man like Donald Trump maybe ... Or not handsome like Brangelina ... But I thank to God I found my wife when Im ready to get married ... :)
Now my marriage has been reached 10 years old ... My oldest son now 9 years old ... Second one is 6 years old cute girl ... And the third one is 2 years old ... She is very cute ... Hmm ... Thats all for now ... :)
What Im trying to say is no what God give us ... A hard life ... A big problem like no girlfriend you must trust that there is something BIG that God wanna give us after that ... Believe that ... Like me now Im happy with my family ... All I want is everyday is a happy day with them ... :)
p/s :- My English grammar quite 'BROKEN' ... Sorry ... Like I said SHARING IS CARING ... Bye ... :)
Today Im trying to give you some advice from my opinion and my experience ... My Wife is my first love ... Dont you believe it ... From a small child till Im 24 years old nobody wants to become my lovers (Im a quite shy guy) ... Maybe Im not a rich man like Donald Trump maybe ... Or not handsome like Brangelina ... But I thank to God I found my wife when Im ready to get married ... :)
Now my marriage has been reached 10 years old ... My oldest son now 9 years old ... Second one is 6 years old cute girl ... And the third one is 2 years old ... She is very cute ... Hmm ... Thats all for now ... :)
What Im trying to say is no what God give us ... A hard life ... A big problem like no girlfriend you must trust that there is something BIG that God wanna give us after that ... Believe that ... Like me now Im happy with my family ... All I want is everyday is a happy day with them ... :)
p/s :- My English grammar quite 'BROKEN' ... Sorry ... Like I said SHARING IS CARING ... Bye ... :)
Friday, June 5, 2009
You may be in love if …
One of the most common human experiences that two or more (depending on how ambitious you are) people can share is love. But, it’s not always easy to tell if you are in “like”, “lust” or full blown, forever loving. With that in mind, I’ve created this list of signs that you may be crazy in love!
1. If you’ve ever stared deeply into the eyes of your significant other for more than 10 seconds without cracking up hysterically … you may be in love.
2. If every person in your life tells you that she/he’s no good and you’re mailman, pharmacist and local news station agrees, yet you think they are “just jealous” … you may be in love.
3. Guys: if you’ve taken the pictures of the other women in you’re life off the walls, like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition posters, Playmate of the month calendar, Monster Truck Rally 2005 … you may be in love.
4. Ladies: men can produce excessive amounts of eye watering, nose burning noxious odor from almost any food or drink, and then aren’t above sharing it with others, especially at night. Knowing all this, and you STILL want to sleep in the same bed with him … you may be in love.
5. If your significant other asks you how they look in their new retro polyester lime green outfit and you say they look hot … you may be in love…. or you have a really strong self preservation instinct.
6. Guys: if you’ve ever given up washing and waxing that new car you just bought to watch “Sleepless in Seattle” with you’re girlfriend/wife for the 20th time … you may be in love.
7. If you always remember every anniversary and birthday of your partner, and you’re not female … you may be in love.
8. If you think the underwear and socks you get for your birthday and Christmas every year is a pleasant surprise … you may be in love.
9. If you thought the Sears Tool Set and rolling cabinet you got for your birthday was great idea, and you’re not male ... you may be in love.
10. If you are taken to Burger King for a romantic dinner, and that doesn’t bother you … you may be in love.
11. If you notice your local florist starts arriving at work in a limo since you became a customer ... you may be in love.
12. If hearing "Honey, wheres my clean underwear?" brings tears of joy to your eyes ... you may be in loveBut the easiest way to tell if you are in love is this: If there is no one on this planet that you would rather spend everyday of your life with than the one you are with … then you ARE in love!
by: Jan Michaels
1. If you’ve ever stared deeply into the eyes of your significant other for more than 10 seconds without cracking up hysterically … you may be in love.
2. If every person in your life tells you that she/he’s no good and you’re mailman, pharmacist and local news station agrees, yet you think they are “just jealous” … you may be in love.
3. Guys: if you’ve taken the pictures of the other women in you’re life off the walls, like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition posters, Playmate of the month calendar, Monster Truck Rally 2005 … you may be in love.
4. Ladies: men can produce excessive amounts of eye watering, nose burning noxious odor from almost any food or drink, and then aren’t above sharing it with others, especially at night. Knowing all this, and you STILL want to sleep in the same bed with him … you may be in love.
5. If your significant other asks you how they look in their new retro polyester lime green outfit and you say they look hot … you may be in love…. or you have a really strong self preservation instinct.
6. Guys: if you’ve ever given up washing and waxing that new car you just bought to watch “Sleepless in Seattle” with you’re girlfriend/wife for the 20th time … you may be in love.
7. If you always remember every anniversary and birthday of your partner, and you’re not female … you may be in love.
8. If you think the underwear and socks you get for your birthday and Christmas every year is a pleasant surprise … you may be in love.
9. If you thought the Sears Tool Set and rolling cabinet you got for your birthday was great idea, and you’re not male ... you may be in love.
10. If you are taken to Burger King for a romantic dinner, and that doesn’t bother you … you may be in love.
11. If you notice your local florist starts arriving at work in a limo since you became a customer ... you may be in love.
12. If hearing "Honey, wheres my clean underwear?" brings tears of joy to your eyes ... you may be in loveBut the easiest way to tell if you are in love is this: If there is no one on this planet that you would rather spend everyday of your life with than the one you are with … then you ARE in love!
by: Jan Michaels
Monday, June 1, 2009
The Two Sides of Love
Anyone who truly wants to experience love has to be ready to delve into ALL of love, the two sides of love. The one side you dream and fantasize about that is readily described in romantic novels, as well as the side that rarely gets mentioned, the side that encompasses unconditional love.
So what is love? Like anything in life, love is composed of it's opposites, to be what it is. Love, a feeling, an emotion, is probably the most written about topic of all times. Love, to many, is the feeling of God. The feeling of the Divine. The feeling that says "all is perfect, all is beautiful, all is well."
If everything in life must have it's opposite to make it complete, to make it known, then love is also vulnerability, insecurity, and jealousy, for without these aspects of love, the feelings of being "perfect, beautiful, Divine and well", could not be felt. Identical to the thought that if we never had night, we could not experience day, if we never knew insecurity we'd never experience the security that love can offer. They must go hand in hand.
In my practice, I often share with clients that if they truly want to experience the deepest of love than they must be willing to also experience the deepest pain, loss, vulnerability and hurt that this quest for love may offer. Many of these emotions, the "other" side of love, can surface if we delve into the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the other part of love that most of us give lip service to, but never really have the intention of practicing. To love someone unconditionally means exactly what it says, without conditions. I love you even if "you don't do as I ask, don't make the money I'd like you to make, don't have the body I want you to have, or don't communicate with me the way I want you to communicate". In other words, I will love you at the deepest level regardless of what you do or do not do.
When we start to love someone at this level, we can be assured that for a while, it will scare the heck out of us. We release our ego through the practice of unconditional love and move to a place of pure acceptance. We toss out the fantasy of having a partner that falls into a certain role, and accept the human side of their existence. This is where we often experience the dark side of our own emotions, fears and insecurities as we allow our partner the space to become their own person without limits or expectations. Again, the fantasy that we have created since childhood gets blasted away, and in it's place we become strong enough, and loving enough, to allow them to live the life they desire.
Within this union, real love can exist. Within this type of relationship, we experience the deepest love for ourselves as we allow our partner more space to grow than they ever could have imagined. When someone feels this type of love coming from you, the will often respond with the same depth in return. The kind of depth that will awaken a new sense of ecstasy within you that may just blow the doors off of anything you could have imagined.
The best way that I have seen this happen is when two people come together and make a conscious decision to discuss this path of unconditional love as a goal that they would like to share. They can then regularly talk honestly about how they are each doing, in a non confrontational and supportive way. While it can also occur without consciousness, the chances of it lasting at this level becomes more of a challenge.
So, now the question lies with you. What do you want when it comes to love? Are you ready to experience the two sides of love in order to reach the zenith of Divine Union or unconditional love? Or, do you want to continue to hold onto the "fantasy love, fantasy partner" that our society continues to promote as realistic to obtain even though we know it is not?
I'd love for you to make a conscious decision today, and then be willing to live with your notion of love. On the one hand is the superficial love filled with shallowness and disappointment from a lover that could never rise to your expectations. Or on the other, is a lover that feels free as a bird, and offers the same freedom in return as you both fly into uncharted territories. A love relationship that offers a connection unknown to most, carried by a current of vulnerability that will stretch you beyond your own wildest dreams. A love that guarantees a soul connection so deep when you make love, one that you could never have created in all of your dreams, even if all you had was time to dream.
Whatever you desire, so it shall be.
David Essel, Master Life, Business and Spiritual Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Adjunct Professor and Radio/TV Host empowers people to take charge of their lives, positively affecting the lives of many through his motivational lectures, television segments, and his belief that health is not just from the neck down. How can you create an exceptional life by honoring your mind, body and soul? Visit his website at:http://www.davidessel.com
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So what is love? Like anything in life, love is composed of it's opposites, to be what it is. Love, a feeling, an emotion, is probably the most written about topic of all times. Love, to many, is the feeling of God. The feeling of the Divine. The feeling that says "all is perfect, all is beautiful, all is well."
If everything in life must have it's opposite to make it complete, to make it known, then love is also vulnerability, insecurity, and jealousy, for without these aspects of love, the feelings of being "perfect, beautiful, Divine and well", could not be felt. Identical to the thought that if we never had night, we could not experience day, if we never knew insecurity we'd never experience the security that love can offer. They must go hand in hand.
In my practice, I often share with clients that if they truly want to experience the deepest of love than they must be willing to also experience the deepest pain, loss, vulnerability and hurt that this quest for love may offer. Many of these emotions, the "other" side of love, can surface if we delve into the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the other part of love that most of us give lip service to, but never really have the intention of practicing. To love someone unconditionally means exactly what it says, without conditions. I love you even if "you don't do as I ask, don't make the money I'd like you to make, don't have the body I want you to have, or don't communicate with me the way I want you to communicate". In other words, I will love you at the deepest level regardless of what you do or do not do.
When we start to love someone at this level, we can be assured that for a while, it will scare the heck out of us. We release our ego through the practice of unconditional love and move to a place of pure acceptance. We toss out the fantasy of having a partner that falls into a certain role, and accept the human side of their existence. This is where we often experience the dark side of our own emotions, fears and insecurities as we allow our partner the space to become their own person without limits or expectations. Again, the fantasy that we have created since childhood gets blasted away, and in it's place we become strong enough, and loving enough, to allow them to live the life they desire.
Within this union, real love can exist. Within this type of relationship, we experience the deepest love for ourselves as we allow our partner more space to grow than they ever could have imagined. When someone feels this type of love coming from you, the will often respond with the same depth in return. The kind of depth that will awaken a new sense of ecstasy within you that may just blow the doors off of anything you could have imagined.
The best way that I have seen this happen is when two people come together and make a conscious decision to discuss this path of unconditional love as a goal that they would like to share. They can then regularly talk honestly about how they are each doing, in a non confrontational and supportive way. While it can also occur without consciousness, the chances of it lasting at this level becomes more of a challenge.
So, now the question lies with you. What do you want when it comes to love? Are you ready to experience the two sides of love in order to reach the zenith of Divine Union or unconditional love? Or, do you want to continue to hold onto the "fantasy love, fantasy partner" that our society continues to promote as realistic to obtain even though we know it is not?
I'd love for you to make a conscious decision today, and then be willing to live with your notion of love. On the one hand is the superficial love filled with shallowness and disappointment from a lover that could never rise to your expectations. Or on the other, is a lover that feels free as a bird, and offers the same freedom in return as you both fly into uncharted territories. A love relationship that offers a connection unknown to most, carried by a current of vulnerability that will stretch you beyond your own wildest dreams. A love that guarantees a soul connection so deep when you make love, one that you could never have created in all of your dreams, even if all you had was time to dream.
Whatever you desire, so it shall be.
David Essel, Master Life, Business and Spiritual Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Adjunct Professor and Radio/TV Host empowers people to take charge of their lives, positively affecting the lives of many through his motivational lectures, television segments, and his belief that health is not just from the neck down. How can you create an exceptional life by honoring your mind, body and soul? Visit his website at:http://www.davidessel.com
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Saturday, May 30, 2009
How to Get a Scorpio Man in Love With You
Actually Im Scorpio Man ... Want to know how my wife attached me, go and ask her ... Hik3x ...
Men born under the astrological sign of the Scorpio are a rare breed. These men love with a passion, and are incredibly sensitive. They understand what the woman they are with feels and they will not only cater to her emotions, but they will anticipate them as well. It's easy to see why so many women want to have a Scorpio man in love with them. If you've become attracted to a man born between the 23rd of October and the 21st of November, there are things you can to do make yourself even more appealing to him.
When a Scorpio man in love is hurt, he carries that wound with him forever. Men like this love deeply and as a result when their hearts are broken, they become wary of trusting again. You must be patient and willing to show him that you are trustworthy if you want to break through the emotional barrier he's set up around himself. He may be aggressive in questioning you if he suspects you are unfaithful, so ensure that you never risk losing him by cheating.
Men born under this sign are passionate lovers. They need a woman who embraces intimacy with the same consuming nature that they have. If you are a little self conscious when it comes to sex, now is the time to lose your inhibitions and throw all caution to the wind. You should be willing and enthusiastic when it comes to lovemaking and be prepared for him to ravish you every chance he gets.
Flattery will get you everywhere if your goal is to get a Scorpio man in love with you. They love having their egos stroked but not to the point where it's obvious. Compliment him as you see fit without going overboard. He'll love to hear how interested you are in his work and how much you admire his dedication to his hobby. If he dresses well, and many Scorpio men do, be certain to tell him that you appreciate his desire to always look great. He'll love you for noticing and for commenting on it.
Specific things you say and do can make a Scorpio man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you. For more informative tips about understanding men including a way to get him to fall deeply in love with you, visit this Helpful Site!
How to Say I Love You So They Know It
Even though being in love is a universal thing there are a few details you need to know about how to say I love you.
People who enjoy listening to others saying nice things about them often think they are loved but according to how to say I love you, what you say is much less significant than HOW you say it. The following percentages have been identified by researchers on the art of knowing how to say I love you:
The words you say provide 7% of the impact, your tone of voice contributes 38%, and your body language as you say it makes up a huge 55% of communication.
WOW! Can you now see that simply saying, "I love you", even to someone who responds via auditory means, can only be a small part of how to say I love you?
These next few points on how to say I love you will help you with the next time you convey your love.
Your body must express an open posture, with your arms and legs uncrossed and palms facing out. This gives the signal that you are open and receptive.
To show you are interested, be wary of your eyes darting about the room because this will show the opposite. Your eyes should be softly looking upon the face of your lover.
These are also valid factors when knowing how to say I love you.
Your facial expression should be a soft smile for anything else does not express positive feelings.
Your tone of voice needs to be easy and relaxed, which shows warmth and comfort.
If your partner enjoys being touched, keep a comforting hand upon them as you speak your love and they will know it.
To really know how to say I love you keep the next points in mind.
Keep your partner's need for personal space present during communication, most people need it while some enjoy being close.
A much needed part of communication is the art of listening as this is as necessary as your speaking.
There is a technique called Active Listening where you repeat back to your partner what they just expressed to you. What this technique can do is to help you stay focused on what is being said instead of formulating a response in your mind too soon. This can be strange for the receiver at first so it is best to explain what you are doing.
Agree to work on this together and you will improve your ability to know when and how to say I love you.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Glenn_Smith
People who enjoy listening to others saying nice things about them often think they are loved but according to how to say I love you, what you say is much less significant than HOW you say it. The following percentages have been identified by researchers on the art of knowing how to say I love you:
The words you say provide 7% of the impact, your tone of voice contributes 38%, and your body language as you say it makes up a huge 55% of communication.
WOW! Can you now see that simply saying, "I love you", even to someone who responds via auditory means, can only be a small part of how to say I love you?
These next few points on how to say I love you will help you with the next time you convey your love.
Your body must express an open posture, with your arms and legs uncrossed and palms facing out. This gives the signal that you are open and receptive.
To show you are interested, be wary of your eyes darting about the room because this will show the opposite. Your eyes should be softly looking upon the face of your lover.
These are also valid factors when knowing how to say I love you.
Your facial expression should be a soft smile for anything else does not express positive feelings.
Your tone of voice needs to be easy and relaxed, which shows warmth and comfort.
If your partner enjoys being touched, keep a comforting hand upon them as you speak your love and they will know it.
To really know how to say I love you keep the next points in mind.
Keep your partner's need for personal space present during communication, most people need it while some enjoy being close.
A much needed part of communication is the art of listening as this is as necessary as your speaking.
There is a technique called Active Listening where you repeat back to your partner what they just expressed to you. What this technique can do is to help you stay focused on what is being said instead of formulating a response in your mind too soon. This can be strange for the receiver at first so it is best to explain what you are doing.
Agree to work on this together and you will improve your ability to know when and how to say I love you.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Glenn_Smith
Friday, May 29, 2009
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Falling in Love With Your Best Friend? It's Worth the Effort
Have you found yourself falling in love with your best friend? Although you have a great friendship, you'd like to move beyond the platonic stage and become his girlfriend. After all, you know each other very well. You know he likes you, but now you are ready for something more. How do you make it happen?
Remind him you are not "one of the guys"
If he's your best friend, he is probably used to seeing you as one of the guys. You'll need to remind him in no uncertain terms that that is not the case. If he comes to you for comfort when some girl breaks his heart, don't give him a shoulder to cry on. Let him know you aren't unhappy about his broken relationship - in fact, you'd like to take the girl's place. He'll probably be surprised, but he will think about it.
Spend more time with him
Do what you can to become more involved in his life. Look for chances to spend more time with him and make yourself indispensable. He'll soon become used to having you around and miss you when you're absent.
Flirt with him
As you try to convert him into thinking of you as a potential girlfriend instead of a platonic friend, you'll need to make him aware of your femininity. Begin to dress a little more provocatively, wear a little perfume, take his hand when you talk to him, smile sweetly and look directly into his eyes. Even if he doesn't appear to notice the changes, he will be taking them in subconsciously. You'll just need to give him a little time to absorb the message.
Falling in love with your best friend is not as unusual as you may think. The best thing about it is that you already know each other well, so you're ready to move beyond the "getting to know you" stage of the relationship and begin building a deeper bond. That gives you a big advantage over couples who have to begin at square one.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
Remind him you are not "one of the guys"
If he's your best friend, he is probably used to seeing you as one of the guys. You'll need to remind him in no uncertain terms that that is not the case. If he comes to you for comfort when some girl breaks his heart, don't give him a shoulder to cry on. Let him know you aren't unhappy about his broken relationship - in fact, you'd like to take the girl's place. He'll probably be surprised, but he will think about it.
Spend more time with him
Do what you can to become more involved in his life. Look for chances to spend more time with him and make yourself indispensable. He'll soon become used to having you around and miss you when you're absent.
Flirt with him
As you try to convert him into thinking of you as a potential girlfriend instead of a platonic friend, you'll need to make him aware of your femininity. Begin to dress a little more provocatively, wear a little perfume, take his hand when you talk to him, smile sweetly and look directly into his eyes. Even if he doesn't appear to notice the changes, he will be taking them in subconsciously. You'll just need to give him a little time to absorb the message.
Falling in love with your best friend is not as unusual as you may think. The best thing about it is that you already know each other well, so you're ready to move beyond the "getting to know you" stage of the relationship and begin building a deeper bond. That gives you a big advantage over couples who have to begin at square one.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Sharing is Caring ... Meaning Of Love
"There are 2 kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them."
"If you want somebody to love you, then just be yourself. Some people try to act like somebody else, somebody the boy likes better. I think the boy isn't being very good if he does this to you and you should just find a nicer boy."
"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Hehehe ...
"My enemies taught me how to love."
"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." So funny ...
"Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no."
"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at him because you know it would hurt his feelings."
"If you want somebody to love you, then just be yourself. Some people try to act like somebody else, somebody the boy likes better. I think the boy isn't being very good if he does this to you and you should just find a nicer boy."
"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Hehehe ...
"My enemies taught me how to love."
"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." So funny ...
"Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no."
"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at him because you know it would hurt his feelings."
Love Magic
Looking for love can at times leave you feeling hopeless and desperate to find a solution. Or it may also make you feel like you should just give up altogether. But, there are many ways that you can increase your chances for finding the kind of relationship that you desire and the love that you really want. But some people start looking in all of the wrong places.
Are you looking for love or for magic?
Many people have a belief that out of nowhere someone will just enter their lives and make everything better. But this rarely happens. And if you are not content to just sit and wait for a magical attraction to just happen, then there are steps that you need to take.
Where should you start?
WHAT ARE YOU REALLY LOOKING FOR?
If you are looking for someone to fill up an empty spot in your life, then chances are, you would be better off filling that spot yourself. Otherwise you are more likely to wind up with the wrong person and back at square one or even worse, in a position that you cannot get out of.
But, you can start to turn that around. Reflect on what you have to give and offer someone else. Realize that you are more deserving of affection than you may believe. Get yourself in a peak state of mind when it comes to a relationship.
This is how you start, and where you start will have a big impact on where you finish.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bryan_Appleton
Are you looking for love or for magic?
Many people have a belief that out of nowhere someone will just enter their lives and make everything better. But this rarely happens. And if you are not content to just sit and wait for a magical attraction to just happen, then there are steps that you need to take.
Where should you start?
WHAT ARE YOU REALLY LOOKING FOR?
If you are looking for someone to fill up an empty spot in your life, then chances are, you would be better off filling that spot yourself. Otherwise you are more likely to wind up with the wrong person and back at square one or even worse, in a position that you cannot get out of.
But, you can start to turn that around. Reflect on what you have to give and offer someone else. Realize that you are more deserving of affection than you may believe. Get yourself in a peak state of mind when it comes to a relationship.
This is how you start, and where you start will have a big impact on where you finish.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Bryan_Appleton
He's Guaranteed to Fall in Love If You Do This
I guy will only fall in love if he really wants to right? Isn't it true that you can't really make a guy fall in love even if you know that you were meant to be with him? In spite of how much you want to be with a guy, do you believe that there is sometimes nothing which you can do to have him? In case you have fallen prey to any of these myths, keep reading and learn the truth.
While men seem to be fickle about love it really just depends on how much you understand about the way that men think. The greatest block to understanding men, or people for that matter is to assume that they think that way that you do. This can be extremely frustrating because most of the time it leads you to believe that he is not living up to your expectations.
That said, the first thing to do is to expect this man to process the relationship different that you do. If he is not, it is likely that he does not have his own standards by which to do so. So in what way are men different? Well, one thing is that they are not anywhere near as emotionally motivated as you are. In spite of the fact that a man may be crazy about you, if the timing is not right he will hold back a lot.
The most common thing which makes men hold back affection is fear that somehow they are not good enough to have you. They will rarely if ever admit this, but fear of not being good enough is men's greatest fear. This is especially true when it comes to his ability to provide for his family. Is your man in a position where his financial life is not in order? If so, then he is going to need a lot assurance if he is going to commit to you.
You can make a man fall in love with you easiest by affirming him for who he is right now. Sure, he can become a better person, we all can. But he is more likely to do so if he has the freedom to make some mistakes while becoming that person.
Once a man is sure that you want him just how he is, falling in love will happen much easier.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
While men seem to be fickle about love it really just depends on how much you understand about the way that men think. The greatest block to understanding men, or people for that matter is to assume that they think that way that you do. This can be extremely frustrating because most of the time it leads you to believe that he is not living up to your expectations.
That said, the first thing to do is to expect this man to process the relationship different that you do. If he is not, it is likely that he does not have his own standards by which to do so. So in what way are men different? Well, one thing is that they are not anywhere near as emotionally motivated as you are. In spite of the fact that a man may be crazy about you, if the timing is not right he will hold back a lot.
The most common thing which makes men hold back affection is fear that somehow they are not good enough to have you. They will rarely if ever admit this, but fear of not being good enough is men's greatest fear. This is especially true when it comes to his ability to provide for his family. Is your man in a position where his financial life is not in order? If so, then he is going to need a lot assurance if he is going to commit to you.
You can make a man fall in love with you easiest by affirming him for who he is right now. Sure, he can become a better person, we all can. But he is more likely to do so if he has the freedom to make some mistakes while becoming that person.
Once a man is sure that you want him just how he is, falling in love will happen much easier.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
Fall in Love - 8 Easy Steps
1.Be true to yourself. There are many lonely people in the world and for a lot of them, having a partner is a way to escape the loneliness. The question is... is this really what I want? The answer can be yes or no. What works for some doesn't necessarily work for others. The thing is, if you feel relaxed with someone and they bring joy to your life, then respect that as a positive. Suck it in and take care of it.
2.Talk to your Friends. Confiding in good friends can take a huge weight off your shoulders and provide you with info that you may not have thought of. Good friends always look out for their kind so don't be afraid. If you have people in your life that you trust, then trust them and ask for assistance. If you don't have close friends to talk to, get in touch with a counsellor or even your doctor. Or you can look in the press for up-coming events that may offer opportunities to meet new people. Be creative, be yourself, get out more and experience the pleasure of meeting people.
3.Be Calm. If you've been in love before and it didn't work out, chances are that you are pissed off, right!? The solution is simple but so many men fail to see it. The answer is... just let go. Allow the wounds to heal. Talk to your ex. Try to encourage positive interchange without argument. If something is said that you don't like... let it go! If you can do this it will put your adversary off guard and you will always win. Let it go!
4.How's your Love Heart? What sort of person are you? Inspect yourself from an outsiders point of view. It is a sad fact that almost 80% of the population that bully people are in denial. They literally don't believe that they are imposing their values on another. So, inspect yourself with an open mind. Be as judgmental of yourself as you dare. Look at yourself from a 3rd person prospective! Tough I realize, but very gratifying if you stick to the rules. I'm not suggesting for a moment that you may be a bully in your relationships. Knowledge is power so I recommend you read on.
5.How do you get back into the dating game following your break-up? Hmmm. An interesting proposition. I have experienced the "break-up blues" just like you and it is dreadful. This is the way I deal with it. It may not be your cup-of-tea but it works for me.
I just Cease dating for a couple/few months and instead, work on myself. Getting stronger, more control, appreciate yourself more, see yourself as valuable. Then, and only then do I go out looking for passion and intimacy. The really important issue is DON'T GO OUT TILL YOUR READY! Sounds simplistic? Just try it and see. Your body and mind will tell you when you're ready. And when you are ready, a great place to start is Free Adult Personals
6.Keep an open Mind Never compare a new lover with past ones. Each person is unique and should be appreciated for their individual qualities. Comparing or dwelling on old flames will only trigger sorrow and torment. The best way to kill a new relationship is to dwell on the past.
7.Make yourself more interesting Time to think about re-inventing yourself. Stay away from shallow dialogue and activities. By going a little deeper you make yourself more interested and more interesting. Your rendezvous will quickly pick up on this and only positive outcomes can result.
8.Unlock your heart and mind to others Broaden your love and concern for others. It is the law of natural attraction, the more you give, the more you get back. Reflect about friends and family who are feeling alone or need love in their world. Many people who are successful in love and life use this technique on a daily basis. Try it and you will find that in no time you will receive back what you put out 10 fold!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Glen_Dene
2.Talk to your Friends. Confiding in good friends can take a huge weight off your shoulders and provide you with info that you may not have thought of. Good friends always look out for their kind so don't be afraid. If you have people in your life that you trust, then trust them and ask for assistance. If you don't have close friends to talk to, get in touch with a counsellor or even your doctor. Or you can look in the press for up-coming events that may offer opportunities to meet new people. Be creative, be yourself, get out more and experience the pleasure of meeting people.
3.Be Calm. If you've been in love before and it didn't work out, chances are that you are pissed off, right!? The solution is simple but so many men fail to see it. The answer is... just let go. Allow the wounds to heal. Talk to your ex. Try to encourage positive interchange without argument. If something is said that you don't like... let it go! If you can do this it will put your adversary off guard and you will always win. Let it go!
4.How's your Love Heart? What sort of person are you? Inspect yourself from an outsiders point of view. It is a sad fact that almost 80% of the population that bully people are in denial. They literally don't believe that they are imposing their values on another. So, inspect yourself with an open mind. Be as judgmental of yourself as you dare. Look at yourself from a 3rd person prospective! Tough I realize, but very gratifying if you stick to the rules. I'm not suggesting for a moment that you may be a bully in your relationships. Knowledge is power so I recommend you read on.
5.How do you get back into the dating game following your break-up? Hmmm. An interesting proposition. I have experienced the "break-up blues" just like you and it is dreadful. This is the way I deal with it. It may not be your cup-of-tea but it works for me.
I just Cease dating for a couple/few months and instead, work on myself. Getting stronger, more control, appreciate yourself more, see yourself as valuable. Then, and only then do I go out looking for passion and intimacy. The really important issue is DON'T GO OUT TILL YOUR READY! Sounds simplistic? Just try it and see. Your body and mind will tell you when you're ready. And when you are ready, a great place to start is Free Adult Personals
6.Keep an open Mind Never compare a new lover with past ones. Each person is unique and should be appreciated for their individual qualities. Comparing or dwelling on old flames will only trigger sorrow and torment. The best way to kill a new relationship is to dwell on the past.
7.Make yourself more interesting Time to think about re-inventing yourself. Stay away from shallow dialogue and activities. By going a little deeper you make yourself more interested and more interesting. Your rendezvous will quickly pick up on this and only positive outcomes can result.
8.Unlock your heart and mind to others Broaden your love and concern for others. It is the law of natural attraction, the more you give, the more you get back. Reflect about friends and family who are feeling alone or need love in their world. Many people who are successful in love and life use this technique on a daily basis. Try it and you will find that in no time you will receive back what you put out 10 fold!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Glen_Dene
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Winning Tips For Finding Your Soul Mate - He's Out There Waiting
Are you a hopeless romantic looking to find your soul mate? Do you believe your true love is out there? Is it possible that you've already met mister right? Everyone likes the idea of finding Mr. Right. It's rare to find your true love without getting hurt a few times along the way. This is an article for the clueless and for those who've had their hearts broken a time or two. Keep reading to find your inner romantic again, and learn how to find your soul mate.
There's not a certain place to find the love of your life. You really will find him in the last place you look. Now, that's not an excuse to stop trying altogether. You have to put yourself out there if you want to be found. There are a lot of options these days when it comes to making yourself available.
An easier way for shy gals to get out there and find their soul mate is online. There are tons of websites out there where you can find someone perfect for you. You can also go the traditional route and go to a bar, or a party, or any other place that singles like you are known to frequent. Matchmakers are also an option for those who have tried other things already.
It would be easy if someone would just tell you who the perfect one for you is, but that would take all the adventure out of the search. Life would be boring if it were all spelled out for us. Are you still wondering how you will find your soul mate? We've compiled some tips to help you with your search.
Be True to Yourself
Know what you want before you start looking. This will keep you from wasting your time with someone you know isn't right. Make a list of the qualities that you have to have in a mate. Make the list for you, not for your friends and family. You are the one that has to live with your mate, so choose someone that makes you happy.
Don't Lower Your Standards
If you wrote that you wanted a blonde on your list, that doesn't mean a brunette can't be your soul mate, but if you want someone with the same spiritual beliefs as you, don't compromise. High standards don't make you a snob, they make you a smart cookie. Don't every be with a guy because you feel sorry for him. You won't be doing him, or you, any favors. This is your life, and if you don't take care of you, then who is going to?
Be Persistent
To win at anything in life, you have to allow yourself to fail more than once. Don't get discouraged just because you've had some failed attempts. Take a moment to mourn a lost love, and then get up and keep looking for Mr. Right. You have to be in a good place or you might miss Mr. Right when he does come along. Be happy with your life where it is, and stay open to love, and you just might find your soul mate.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
There's not a certain place to find the love of your life. You really will find him in the last place you look. Now, that's not an excuse to stop trying altogether. You have to put yourself out there if you want to be found. There are a lot of options these days when it comes to making yourself available.
An easier way for shy gals to get out there and find their soul mate is online. There are tons of websites out there where you can find someone perfect for you. You can also go the traditional route and go to a bar, or a party, or any other place that singles like you are known to frequent. Matchmakers are also an option for those who have tried other things already.
It would be easy if someone would just tell you who the perfect one for you is, but that would take all the adventure out of the search. Life would be boring if it were all spelled out for us. Are you still wondering how you will find your soul mate? We've compiled some tips to help you with your search.
Be True to Yourself
Know what you want before you start looking. This will keep you from wasting your time with someone you know isn't right. Make a list of the qualities that you have to have in a mate. Make the list for you, not for your friends and family. You are the one that has to live with your mate, so choose someone that makes you happy.
Don't Lower Your Standards
If you wrote that you wanted a blonde on your list, that doesn't mean a brunette can't be your soul mate, but if you want someone with the same spiritual beliefs as you, don't compromise. High standards don't make you a snob, they make you a smart cookie. Don't every be with a guy because you feel sorry for him. You won't be doing him, or you, any favors. This is your life, and if you don't take care of you, then who is going to?
Be Persistent
To win at anything in life, you have to allow yourself to fail more than once. Don't get discouraged just because you've had some failed attempts. Take a moment to mourn a lost love, and then get up and keep looking for Mr. Right. You have to be in a good place or you might miss Mr. Right when he does come along. Be happy with your life where it is, and stay open to love, and you just might find your soul mate.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
Does Love Conquer All?
"All you need is love" perhaps epitomizes the thousands of songs, movies, plays, books, articles, etc. which share the common theme that with love, anything is possible.
Believing in this message or wanting desperately to believe this message is true, we seek love, we strive to find a mate, someone to fill the loneliness, provide us with shelter from the storm, and give us the strength to move mountains.
The question is: for those who succeed at finding love, does the attainment enable them to transcend the lack and limitations in their lives? Does love conquer all? For some, perhaps. For most, I think not.
It seems to me, for the most part, love can't even keep us together let alone help us solve our problems. That's because we've been looking for love under the wrong bushel basket. We need to look within.
I'm not suggesting people put a halt to their quest for loving companions. I'm suggesting that finding one is the icing on the cake. First we must bake the cake. First we must appreciate that there is a fountain of infinite love inside each of us that we are unaware of, that we are blocking our own access to, that is connected to the limitless abundance of the universe.
We unconsciously block our access to the truth of what we are, Love and nothing else, because of deeply-embedded guilt, shame and, above all, fear, which are generated by our ego.
While our ego distracts us and consumes us with chasing love in the guise of one person, one body after another, we avoid the true path to our Love and its creative power, which is to extend compassion, acceptance and forgiveness to others unconditionally, no exceptions, no special circumstances.
As we stop finding fault with others, as we stop being rigid and judgmental, as we choose to be more sympathetic, empathetic and understanding, as we give and share all of our emotional, physical, material and spiritual assets with others unconditionally, without any need of acknowledgment or reward of any kind, the Light of our Love inside of us will shine brighter and brighter.
The more we engage in these behaviors of loving others in order to connect with the infinite power of love inside ourselves, the more we will manifest growth, healing, recovery, creativity and prosperity in our lives beyond our wildest dreams.
We don't need love. We are Love. Hold that thought.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Walter_Jacobson
Believing in this message or wanting desperately to believe this message is true, we seek love, we strive to find a mate, someone to fill the loneliness, provide us with shelter from the storm, and give us the strength to move mountains.
The question is: for those who succeed at finding love, does the attainment enable them to transcend the lack and limitations in their lives? Does love conquer all? For some, perhaps. For most, I think not.
It seems to me, for the most part, love can't even keep us together let alone help us solve our problems. That's because we've been looking for love under the wrong bushel basket. We need to look within.
I'm not suggesting people put a halt to their quest for loving companions. I'm suggesting that finding one is the icing on the cake. First we must bake the cake. First we must appreciate that there is a fountain of infinite love inside each of us that we are unaware of, that we are blocking our own access to, that is connected to the limitless abundance of the universe.
We unconsciously block our access to the truth of what we are, Love and nothing else, because of deeply-embedded guilt, shame and, above all, fear, which are generated by our ego.
While our ego distracts us and consumes us with chasing love in the guise of one person, one body after another, we avoid the true path to our Love and its creative power, which is to extend compassion, acceptance and forgiveness to others unconditionally, no exceptions, no special circumstances.
As we stop finding fault with others, as we stop being rigid and judgmental, as we choose to be more sympathetic, empathetic and understanding, as we give and share all of our emotional, physical, material and spiritual assets with others unconditionally, without any need of acknowledgment or reward of any kind, the Light of our Love inside of us will shine brighter and brighter.
The more we engage in these behaviors of loving others in order to connect with the infinite power of love inside ourselves, the more we will manifest growth, healing, recovery, creativity and prosperity in our lives beyond our wildest dreams.
We don't need love. We are Love. Hold that thought.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Walter_Jacobson
Can Love Make You Happy?
If I was to ask now, to everyone...
Have you ever been in love?
I'm pretty sure that 90% of you would answer positively.
Now if I ask you, are you living with your true love?
I bet this number would decrease drastically.
I don't know if you ever wondered why so many people have known true love, or so they wish; but only few actually share their life with that special person.
I have a few suggestions to that.
First, we too often confuse physical attraction with love. I'll explain. I am a man, walking down the street and I see a beautiful looking woman... My heart goes to the next gear and my mind starts creating all kind of images of her, holding my hands, laughing with me, hugging me, kissing me, and ultimately ending up (in bed) with me...
My heart is sure, so is my mind, that I am in love. All I have to do now is convinced her that my visions are prophetical and we are meant to be together (in Bed, eventually).
Did I love the person for who she is? No. I don't even know her name at that very moment.
Did she love me at first sight? No. She just saw a strange guy staring at her with his mouth wide open.
So, this was not love. We actually just met, I had my hormones working and then I would eventually start stalking her until she gives in and we end together (in bed).
Secondly, the person you love does not always love you back. Sad but true.
So, what is love?
Well, I think love is a state of mind, an attraction between two people beyond the physical aspect...
A person in love would of course like the person physically, but also their personality, their strengths and weaknesses, their flaws or oversized ego... (that's for me.)
Now that we know what's love, let's get back to our subject of the day...
Can love make you happy?
The truth is, nothing can make you happy but yourself...
If you wait to fall in love to be happy, I can tell you right now, it is not going to happen.
Few people meet this special someone and actually share their life with that person.
What most people do, is that we build our relationships with people who understand us, and that we understand.
We will share a living place, make it a home. we will talk through our problems and solve them as we go along.
I hope this will help you sort out your life.
Remember: "Do not let life pass you by for waiting, on anything. Make it happen or drop it".
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Frederic_Ndong
Have you ever been in love?
I'm pretty sure that 90% of you would answer positively.
Now if I ask you, are you living with your true love?
I bet this number would decrease drastically.
I don't know if you ever wondered why so many people have known true love, or so they wish; but only few actually share their life with that special person.
I have a few suggestions to that.
First, we too often confuse physical attraction with love. I'll explain. I am a man, walking down the street and I see a beautiful looking woman... My heart goes to the next gear and my mind starts creating all kind of images of her, holding my hands, laughing with me, hugging me, kissing me, and ultimately ending up (in bed) with me...
My heart is sure, so is my mind, that I am in love. All I have to do now is convinced her that my visions are prophetical and we are meant to be together (in Bed, eventually).
Did I love the person for who she is? No. I don't even know her name at that very moment.
Did she love me at first sight? No. She just saw a strange guy staring at her with his mouth wide open.
So, this was not love. We actually just met, I had my hormones working and then I would eventually start stalking her until she gives in and we end together (in bed).
Secondly, the person you love does not always love you back. Sad but true.
So, what is love?
Well, I think love is a state of mind, an attraction between two people beyond the physical aspect...
A person in love would of course like the person physically, but also their personality, their strengths and weaknesses, their flaws or oversized ego... (that's for me.)
Now that we know what's love, let's get back to our subject of the day...
Can love make you happy?
The truth is, nothing can make you happy but yourself...
If you wait to fall in love to be happy, I can tell you right now, it is not going to happen.
Few people meet this special someone and actually share their life with that person.
What most people do, is that we build our relationships with people who understand us, and that we understand.
We will share a living place, make it a home. we will talk through our problems and solve them as we go along.
I hope this will help you sort out your life.
Remember: "Do not let life pass you by for waiting, on anything. Make it happen or drop it".
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Frederic_Ndong
Love at First Sight - Can it Really Happen?
Can love at first sight really happen? Is it possible to fall head-over-heels for a guy you just met? Or is it an emotion that you have to tamp down to be on the safe side of things? The answer to whether love at first sight can really happen may be shocking -- and confusing.
The answer to the question is both Yes and No. This is simply because falling in love with a new guy isn't as simple as it sounds -- it's a complex emotion that needs to be handled carefully. If you don't watch yourself, you might be heading into quick, hard heartache.
First, let's deal with the Yes. Yes, love at first sight does happen. In fact, many healthy, meaningful relationships today started when both partners fell in love with each other right from the start. This is mainly due to physical attraction, the ice-breaker for every relationship.
Physical attraction is very important, because it's how nature designed us to make sure we pick the best possible partners for ourselves. It's also what makes men and women want to get to know each other better. This is always an important first step in a good relationship.
But physical attraction is never enough to make a relationship last for any good duration of time. This is where the "No" comes in -- falling in love with a new guy at first sight may be just infatuation if you don't have that special emotional bond: Chemistry.
Without chemistry -- that emotional attraction that forms the foundation of a long-term relationship -- falling in love at the first meeting is only a fleeting emotion that will get your hopes up. But if your personalities jibe and your lives are a perfect fit with each other, then that means it really is love at first sight.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tina_L._Jones
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